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From Spouses to Roomies: Sharing the Nest After Divorce (Without Killing Each Other)


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So, you've decided to untie the knot, but your living situation throws a curveball. Sharing a roof with your ex? Let's be honest, it's not exactly the picture of post-marital bliss. But hey, sometimes life throws you lemons, and you got to make lemonade (or at least a halfway decent roommate agreement).


Fear not, fellow divorcees! This blog is your guide to navigating the uncharted territory of cohabiting with your ex. We'll dish out fun and practical tips to keep the peace in your shared nest.


Ground Rules for Graceful Cohabitation:

  • The Declaration of De-Couple-dependence: This isn't your rom-com meet-cute. Set boundaries like nobody's business. Divide chores, living spaces, and even fridge shelves (because whose moldy cheese is whose?).

  • The Art of the Ex-Communication: Talking it out is key, but remember, "I told you so" is a banned phrase. Pro tip: schedule regular roommate meetings (think Friends' apartment huddle, minus the Monica cleaning freak-outs).

  • Respect the "Ex Zone": We all have our quirks, and now's not the time to "fix" them. Let your ex indulge in their questionable reality TV marathons in peace, and you do you with your opera-singing at 2 am (within reasonable noise levels, of course).

  • Shared Spaces, Separate Lives: Remember that pre-divorce trip to Bali you swore you'd take someday? Dust off that itinerary! Prioritize self-discovery and rediscover hobbies you put on hold during the marriage. You might surprise yourself (and your ex) with your newfound salsa skills.

Turning Tension into Laughter:

  • Game Night, Reinvented: Ditch the Scrabble. Board game nights can be a hilarious way to break the ice (and maybe unleash some pent-up competitive spirit). Twister, anyone? Just remember, no footsie with the ex (unless you're both feeling frisky, but that's a whole other blog post).

  • Themed Movie Marathons: Rom-coms are a bad idea (unless you're into torture). Opt for cult classics, horror flicks, or even those cheesy 80s movies you secretly loved as a couple. Bonus points for dressing up in character (think Ghostbusters or Clueless).

  • MasterChef, Divorce Edition: Cooking can be a bonding experience, even if the only thing you bond over is burning the toast. Challenge yourselves to themed dinners, mystery ingredient nights, or even a friendly (or not-so-friendly) cook-off. Just remember, clean-up is part of the deal.

Remember, You're Not Roommates, You're Survivors:

Divorce is tough, but living together afterwards can be an unexpected adventure. Focus on the positive: you're saving money, honing your communication skills (maybe a little too much sometimes), and proving to yourself that you're one tough cookie.


So, raise a glass of (non-judgmental) kombucha to your newfound freedom, and embrace the weird, the wacky, and the downright hilarious moments of cohabitating with your ex. Who knows, you might just discover that you can be friends, or even frenemies, with a side of shared Netflix subscriptions.



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