The 5 Most Costly Family Law Mistakes (and How to Avoid Them)

Hi there,

After years of guiding clients through some of the most stressful moments of their lives, I’ve noticed the same avoidable mistakes show up again and again. These missteps can make an already difficult process even harder — emotionally, financially, and legally.

Here are the top five issues I see far too often:

1. Making decisions based on emotion instead of strategy

It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, angry, hurt, or scared — but reacting from those emotions can lead to choices that hurt your case. You don’t have to suppress what you feel, but you do need a clear plan before making big moves.

2. Failing to document communication

Texts, emails, call logs, and even small exchanges matter. Proper documentation protects you, clarifies timelines, and can provide critical evidence if things escalate.

3. Leaving the home without proper guidance

Moving out without legal advice can impact custody, finances, and leverage. Even when it feels urgent, speak with an attorney before making that decision.

4. Being unprepared financially

A separation impacts income, expenses, access to accounts, and long-term stability. Having a full financial picture early helps you make informed, confident choices.

5. Waiting too long to get legal advice

Many people hope things will “settle down” — but waiting often narrows your options. Even one consultation can prevent mistakes that are difficult to undo later.

If you’re navigating divorce, custody, or family transitions, I’ve put together a Divorce & Custody Preparation Checklist to help you stay organized and avoid the pitfalls I see most often.

Divorce & Custody Checklist_Larimer Law.pdf

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